Mourning Grieving Process

Grieving is done so many different ways. People of today tend to think of it as a way to mourn and move on. It wasn't always like that tho. Work wise, sometimes you get three days, sometimes you get five days off. Then you are expected to come back to work, and do your job. It's as if nothing ever happened. It did tho. Things should proceed as if it didn't. What an odd way of grieving. The world doesn't stop for anybody to grieve. It stops long enough for a wake, and funeral.
Most people have permission to grieve, but there is not enough time to Mourn. There is supposed to be a 5 step process to grieving.
1 Denial AKA Thinking there is no way it could have happened. Or maybe it didn't really happen.
2 Anger AKA Why me? Why them?
3 Bargaining AKA Please, God, grant me this, and I will do anything. Please make this not be true.
4 Depression AKA Loss of feelings, numbness. Sadness.
5. Acceptance AKA Accepting the loss, realizing there is nothing that can be done, and coming to terms with it.

Not everyone goes through all the emotions, and some don't go through any. My most recent went like this....
My mom calls, and says Uncle Dallas, His Daughter Tammy, and Grandson Dillon were in an accident, they're dead. My reaction (Short denial) Are you serious?
My mom says yes, describes what happened to me. My Reaction, (very short anger) Why? Mom, What about Aunt Mae, that was her whole family.
My mom agrees,( I even went through a stage of bargaining) Why would this happen? Was there anything that could have prevented it?
My mom says not really, it was just a freak accident, I suddenly went numb, looked it up online.

I'm coming into acceptance, it still takes a bit.
That's what I mean tho. It is taking some time. Mourning isn't given enough time, and I believe that is why people come back alot months later, and find themselves crying over nothing, and getting stressed, then realize it's their departed loved ones, they have not finished grieving for. They heard something that reminded them of them, or seen something that brought a passing thought. the loved one is missed.
In some cultures people grieve for a year. Wearing funeral attire, and no dating, etc. Actual Mourning.
The custom of quickly grieving and back to work is really odd. People don't have time for Mourning now. They are expected to feel all better within a short period of time.